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ALLOWING CHANGE: LET IT DO WHAT IT DO


"I just don't understand why this is happening to me."
-Me, during any minor inconvenience.

 How many times has unexpected change come knocking and busting down your door before you even had a chance to put on your drawers and get ready for it? For me, more times than I can count.

In the past few weeks of January, we've discussed change of habits, unexpected change and changing the way you deal. But, we haven't discussed ALLOWING change to happen. Sometimes, we can see change coming. We don't know when, but sooner or later it's going to happen. And sometimes, we may even try to intercede in order to prevent it.

So peep this: I used to struggle with the thought of someone not liking me. I never wanted to be the person to make someone upset, ruffle feathers or cause confrontation. (Now, don't get me wrong; if you come for me, you can have these hands but, I'd rather not, okay?) Ya'll, do you have any idea how hard it is to NOT piss someone off? I don't care if you're the kindest person in the universe, somebody gone say you fake. You can't win. I'd often try to see the good in things even when I had a feeling they weren't right. I'd try to prevent it by making efforts to "be a better friend" or "send the good morning text first" or "drink more coffee to be happier at work". Turns out, I was doing myself a disservice by not letting those people walk out of my life or staying at that trash job thinking caffeine was going to solve my problems. 

 When I stopped intervening, I was given better friends, a better job and I'll keep you posted on that better bae (he coming).
Photo: I be taking hella selfies

Listen, the moral of the story is, sometimes things aren't happening to you, they are happening for you. Just...let it be. Everything and everyone isn't meant to stay in your life forever. And everything and everybody ain't gone leave peacefully. Some folk will walk out kicking, screaming and cussing. Oh well, that's on them. Ya'll ain't about to raise my blood pressure this year.

See ya'll in February!

-BRIT
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