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SIMON SAYS: CHILL OUT

"I'm just not feeling it right now." Lately, I've had a lack of creativity. I usually feel like I'm bursting with so many ideas that I can't write them down fast enough. I don't know if it's writer's block, I'm uninspired or maybe I'm just so relaxed from the hot girl summer, that I'm not motivated to do anything but take pictures with a lil bit of cleavage showing so that somebody's son can slide into my DM's for cuffing season. Photo: My Mama Yeah. That's prolly what it is. We live in a world where they try to tell us that "Rich people don't sleep" or, folks are constantly pushing this "No days off" narrative. But, if we are constantly working ourselves to death, where do we find the time to be still so that we can hear what the next move is supposed to be? Photo: The homie Sarita This time last year, I made a promise to myself that I was going to go hard for my bra...

BLACK AND CONFIDENT

"Black is Beautiful!" I chose this week's topic as BLACK AND CONFIDENT because of the importance it is to have confidence in your black skin. Society often urges us to "tone it down" a bit. We can't be too much of ourselves or people will start to feel uncomfortable. But on the other hand, folks can take our culture and everything that makes us unique, do the same thing and be praised for it. Nope. Not here for it. Okay so, it's been a rough black history month. Everybody done went to jail, most of ya'll tax money already gone and I did not enter into a relationship with a strong black man. But on the other hand, Kaepernick won his case against the NFL, Solange revived black planet and I slid back into some skinny jeans so that I can slide into somebody DM's this summer. See what I'm saying? God will turn it around, if you let him. When I was a little girl, I was very shy around strangers. I usually walked into a room with my hand...

ALLOWING CHANGE: LET IT DO WHAT IT DO

"I just don't understand why this is happening to me." -Me, during any minor inconvenience. How many times has unexpected change come knocking and busting down your door before you even had a chance to put on your drawers and get ready for it? For me, more times than I can count. In the past few weeks of January, we've discussed change of habits, unexpected change and changing the way you deal. But, we haven't discussed ALLOWING change to happen. Sometimes, we can see change coming. We don't know when, but sooner or later it's going to happen. And sometimes, we may even try to intercede in order to prevent it. So peep this: I used to struggle with the thought of someone not liking me. I never wanted to be the person to make someone upset, ruffle feathers or cause confrontation. (Now, don't get me wrong; if you come for me, you can have these hands but, I'd rather not, okay?) Ya'll, do you have any idea how hard it is to NOT piss someon...

CHANGE THE WAY YOU DEAL

"Whatever will be, will be." Okay, I'm going to be all the way real with ya'll. Sometimes, it's hard for me to "grin and bare it". When Change happens unexpectedly, I want to cry, cuss, lock myself into a room, turn off my phone, eat a bunch of stuff that's gonna make me fat and feel sorry for myself. The reality is, I can't always do that because I have a job to go to and bills to pay which won't allow me to stay in bed drowning in my disappointment. And that's a good thing because anxiety attacks are no joke. Photo: Me, I took this. Let me be transparent: Something that I always let stress me out is money. Every weekend, I sit and redo my budget to figure a way to pay my bills ahead of time so that I won't get caught up so easily. Sometimes, that works in my favor, most times, it doesn't. When that happens, I get upset and find myself in a stank attitude for a few hours, thinking about how I'm damn near 30 and j...

UNEXPECTED CHANGE: IT'S ALWAYS SOMETHING

"I didn't ask for this." Someone once said, " Change happens when you least expect it ". I don't know about you, but when I hear that, I'm always thinking of the good kind of change. Like that one time when I was broke, I found 20 dollars that I hid from myself in the pajama drawer, or when the dude I liked finally hopped in my DMs, or when they sent the new lease and the rent actually went down 50 dollars... Okay, that one never happened but ya'll get the point. You ever been sitting in the break room at work, chilling, scrolling your phone, having a good day, then somebody comes in there talking your ear off, annoying you and now your peace of mind is disturbed. Plus, you now have only 33 seconds left of your break  which you spend hiding from them in the bathroom but it doesn't matter because you see them all day anyway. Photo: Britney Annice That's kind of how UNEXPECTED CHANGE enters your life. It's like "Damn, I w...

I'M HELLA BORED: CHANGE OF HABITS

"Ugh, I'm bored." Hey ya'll! Welcome to 2019! I'm so glad that you decided to bring me with you instead of leaving me in the old year with all the people you hate. I know it's the top of the year and most of us are already a few days into our new diet plans. We cold. We mean. And we hungry. But, if you want to see change, you have to make a change, right? Photo: My Mama Change is the one thing that is consistent in our lives. Nothing ever stays the same. For the month of January, I'll be talking to you all about CHANGE . Which can mean a lot of different things for a lot of people. For me, this first week of 2019, it meant boredom . Before Christmas, I promised myself that after I finished my last blog post, I was taking some time to myself. Now, if ya'll follow me on social media, you know I go hard with the self promotion. I'm in ya'll face every. damn. day. And it ain't nothing you can do to stop me because I feel like I ha...

NEW YEAR, FRESH START

"New year, New me." -All of ya'll, every year Well, since we're still in December and on the subject of gifts, let's talk about the gift of a FRESH START . Nah, I'm not talking about you calling your ex back and acting like you weren't trash for the bulk of the year. You need to get left in 2018. I'm talking about truly stepping back, reflecting and taking action in new ways. Now, I know a lot of people roll their eyes when folks start talking about the things that they want to do differently in the new year, how they about to be skinny and how they not bringing all that negative energy into this new chapter. And yea, they might be a little extra with it, but that's the beauty of a reset. Photo: Britney Annice I used to think that New Year's resolutions meant that I had done something wrong and needed to change it. Like this was my time to reflect on my mistakes, my weight, my eating habits, my career and change everything about ...

SELF INVESTMENT = I AIN'T GOT IT

"You ain't got it right now, fam." -My bank account Around this time of year, a lot of people tend to stress themselves out. You're sad because you don't have the money to buy gifts for loved ones. You're upset because it's cold outside and it takes 20 minutes for your car to warm up. You're salty because nobody is cuddling you by the Christmas tree. And what's supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, turns out to be you with an attitude, pushing your shopping cart on the back of people heels in Walmart all season. That ain't it, fam. Photo: Yajaira Suriel Look, I'm going to be transparent with ya'll: I am not where I want to be or where I thought I'd be in life. Especially, on the financial tip. In previous years, I'd get really upset when I wasn't able to get the gifts I wanted my friends and family to have. And sometimes, I'd find myself spending more than I needed, with nearly nothing left ov...

GIFTS: YOU'RE HERE ON PURPOSE

"Tis' the season of giving!" Welcome to my favorite time of year. Christmas! The hot drinks, the lights, the music, the delicious treats all just make me feel so warm and fuzzy inside. Not to mention the gifts... which none of ya'll are getting this year. Look man, I'm in the middle of building a brand, paying bills and turning 30 in 2019. Ya'll better take these blogs and this smile and get somewhere and sit down. Besides, have you even used the gifts that you got years ago? Nah, I'm not talking about that waffle maker your mama 'nem got you in 2011. I'm talking about the GIFTS that you were already born with. Your PURPOSE for being here in the first place. Photo: Sierra Campbell The year was 2006. I was finishing up my junior year of high school and was still uncertain and very insecure about attending college. However, my parents made it very clear that I did not have a choice on whether or not I went to college. I was going and ...

THANKFUL: FAMILY MATTERS

"Family over everything." For the month of November, I’ve been discussing some of the things that I’m thankful for. I couldn’t end this month without talking about my family! They are not only my support system but also my friends. Watch as I turn the camera on them to find out what they’re thankful for! P.S. I'm still learning how to vlog and I couldn't quite figure out how to get music on here. But, I did figure out how to do voice overs... so I made my own theme music. It's about to get weird, guys. Enjoy! And subscribe to my YouTube channel to get updates on my monthly vlogs! -BRIT

DETERMINATION: ALL YOU CAN DO, IS WHAT YOU CAN DO

"Oh Imma do that anyway, Imma do that anyway cause that's how I am." -The Internet Auntie First of all, shout out to all of the people that only need one alarm to wake them up in the morning and never hit the snooze button. That's some different kind of drive & determination. We will not be discussing that kind here, today. Do you ever feel like you just have about one more fail left in you before you give up? Or like you must be doing something wrong because you're not where you thought you should be? Or that you're just not getting anywhere so what's the point anyway, right? Yeah. Same here. But, I got news for you, if you were supposed to give up, then you wouldn't have been given one more day to get up and try again. Photo: Sierra Campbell When I was a Sophmore in college, I had an end of the year evaluation with one of my acting professors. In this meeting, she told me "Acting might not be for you. Maybe you should consid...

THANK-FULL: NY FOOD RECAP

"So, what we gone eat when I get there?" Happy November! It's "We got food at the house" season which means we are one step closer to my favorite time of year... Christmas! But, let me not get ahead of myself. For the month of November, I'll be sharing some of the things that I'm thankful for. And what better way to kick off this month than FOOD . I be hungry. Now ya'll know, anytime I go to a new city, I got to eat. That's one of my favorite things about a vacation. You do all of the prepping for it, you shop for new outfits, you try to lose a couple of pounds to get into the new outfits, you pack and travel. But when you finally make it to your destination, you get to just relax and try as many foods as you can. You know you don't be eating like that all the time, so it's all good. I had an absolute blast exploring New York City with my friends Yaya, Greg and baby G! When I touched down at their home in Brooklyn, I was met at t...

TRUST: BRITNEY BE KNOWING

"It sounds like you got trust issues." Ya'll remember when we talked about vulnerability a few weeks ago? Well, I feel like that and this week's topic of TRUST go hand in hand. When I put my trust into someone, I expect them to do right by me. And when you don't do right by Britney, you gotta catch these hands. I trusted you, even though you got a booty chin. Just kidding, I've never trusted anyone with a booty chin. Photo: Yajaira Suriel So look, I'm a bit of a loner. Always have been (See "LONELINESS" post). I never felt like I needed a whole lot of people around me because I don't fool with ya'll like that anyway. I can always tell when something is off about a person. I often try to see things through and tell myself "Maybe it's not what you think" but every time I've tried to give someone the benefit of the doubt, they end up showing me why I can't trust people. Let me see if I can give you a short lis...

SELF PROMOTION: CANT STOP WON’T STOP

"You gotta get some 'don't give a damn' in you!" Remember when I told ya'll that I was going to start facing my fears in the month of October? Well, vlogging is one of them. I always thought I needed a professional camera, a makeup artist and maybe a studio audience to laugh on que before I did a vlog. Turns out, I only needed my iPhone and my well lit bathroom. I heard ya'll got a short attention span these days and don't like to read. That's too bad. Because imma still write. But for now, enjoy this very low budget movie about Self Promotion ! See ya'll next week. -BRIT

LONELINESS: EVERYBODY CAN'T GO

"It's cool, I can just go by myself." Okay so, I hope you didn't come on this post looking for something sad. I'm not the one that's gone cry with you today. Alexa, play "Not Gone Cry" by Mary J. Blige. Photo: Sierra Campbell You know, I used to think that it was weird for me to feel lonely. I never even wanted to hear myself say that word. I thought that meant that it was something wrong with me and saying it out loud would make it too real. You would think that I'd be used to it by now. I spent 6 years, miles away from my family, starting at the age of 18, while I was in school. After that, I moved half way across the country, alone. Then, I picked up and moved miles away again and here we are. Alone . On a cold October night. My whole life, I've been surrounded by love. I was blessed to be born into a family where the time and attention was plentiful. I never had to worry about having someone to talk to because they were a...

VULNERABILITY: DON'T GET CUFFED BY THE COMFORT ZONE

"I don't want all them people looking at me!" It's October! So I want to get real spooky with ya'll on this here blog. For the rest of this month, I'll be talking about some of the things that scare me. I know what you're thinking right now, "Damn Brit, I thought you was a real gangsta. Gangstas don't get scared." Hold on homie, let me explain... I'm a pretty outgoing person. I always have been...around my family. Most people didn't even know I could talk until I was 15. That's a little bit of an exaggeration but you know what I mean. I had to pick and choose who I showed my personality around. Because if anyone knew how silly I was or that I liked to dress up as different characters and perform for my family, they would make fun of me and I'd be the weird girl with the glasses. Photo: Sierra Campbell I've always felt so awkward being the center of attention. Something about it gave me the creeps. And sometime...

CONSISTENCY: STOP BREAKING PROMISES TO YOURSELF

"I'll do it later." Aight, so boom. You know when somebody tells you they're going to do something and they don't follow through? Or when you think you've got something really good going with a person and they just disappear? Or when you're working with someone on a project and they don't do their part? It's really annoying and very hard to take anyone serious who can't be consistent. Now, I want you to sit back, take minute or two and think about all of the times you've told yourself you were going to do something and didn't do it. I'll wait.... *Holding music: "When you left, I lost a part of me, this feels so hard to believe, come back baby please cause we belong togetherrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr"* Oh okay, you're back. Now, when you broke those promises to yourself, did you feel the same anger or annoyance that you did when it came from someone else? Do you send little reminders to yourself so that you won't...

FOCUS: REMEMBER YOUR "WHY"

"What's the point?" After you discipline yourself to get on the path to achieve certain goals, you must remain focused on the prize. Whatever that may be. That's why I chose FOCUS as this week's word. I have always had a problem in this area of my life. I mean, from the time I was a little girl. It would really wear my parents out. Them: "Britney, go downstairs, look on the table, grab the envelope inside of the book that's on the table and bring it to me." Me: *Goes downstairs* "Where ya'll say the book was?" My mind drifted off somewhere between them saying go downstairs and bring it to me . As I've gotten older, I've gotten a little better. But now, my lack of focus shows in different ways. Sometimes, I can't concentrate on my craft because I'm to busy thinking about the negative aspects of it. " I don't know why I'm doing this, it's not getting me anywhere " or " This is pointle...

THE FIRST STEP IS DISCIPLINE

Discipline: 1.) Control gained by enforcing obedience or order 2.) Punishment 3.) Self Control 4.) Training that corrects, molds or perfects moral character - Merriam-Webster Dictionary I started this week off by making a list of 4 things that I want to improve about myself. Just 4 areas of my life that could use some attention. I'm giving myself 1 word to focus on each week. Why? Well, I often find myself writing lists of goals that I want to achieve, things that I want to accomplish and places that I see myself going. But, I seldom write lists of the ways that I am going to reach those goals. For me, seeing is believing. That's why I write so much. If I constantly have those visuals of the words in my mind, it's easy for me to follow that step by step process. For example: I always knew that I wanted to move to California. I knew I couldn't do that without a car. I knew I had to get a job in order to get the car. So I made a list on a poster board stating t...

MY PASSION WILL BE MY PROFESSION

"My passion will be my profession!" This year, I have been making an intentional effort to have more confidence to venture out on my own. Ya'll know I'm hella awkward and never know what to do with my hands. Plus, I'm always afraid that someone is going to say something really funny. I snort while laughing, when something is really funny. Then everybody at the party will be like, "Unn, that tall girl with the afro over there snorting like a pig" and then they will point at me and laugh. Then they'll record me snorting and put in on Twitter and I'll run out of the party crying and will never have any friends. Welp! Luckily, none of that has happened. Last Friday, I had the pleasure of attending recording R&B looping artist, Taylor Mallory's "Take Control" album release party. Even though I went alone, I felt welcomed and was even able to meet and network with new folks. A lot of the people in attendance were my old friends...