Britney Annice

"I can't commit to that right now" I know, commitment is scary. You're locking yourself into something that you usually have no idea what the outcome is going to be. You have to hold yourself accountable for something. In some cases, there are others holding you accountable as well. And that feeling can be very overwhelming. Hell, some of ya'll too scared to commit to an event on Facebook. Non commitment gives you the freedom to walk away without judgement. Well, I'm going to judge you whether you commit or not. "Word is Bond." - I was always taught that if I gave someone my word that I was going to do something, then I should always follow through. And if I find myself unable to follow through, I should offer an explanation as to why. And the "why" better be a damn good reason. Photo: Paparazzi In my personal experience, I've found that fear was keeping me from commitment: 1. Fear of Disappointing Myself - I launched A...

"Okay, maybe I'm overthinking..... But what if I'm not overthinking and something happens and my life is ruined forever?" -Me, every night at approximately 2:04 AM I know, I know, last week I was on here talking to ya'll about shifting your energy and how we all need to take a chill pill sometimes. And here I am one week later talking about being a over-thinker. But how can we solve our problems if we don't address them, right? Sit down, it's time for ghetto therapy. Photo: Britney's iPhone It's like this: There are good and bad sides to over-thinking. Ya'll want the good or the bad first?... Okay, I'll do the bad. Over-thinking has made me many things: 1. A Procrastinator - Sometimes, I over-think things so much and get so overwhelmed that I just say forget it and go take a nap, then come back to it 5 seconds before I have to make a decision on it. 2. Late - I over-think everything, down to my outfits. I have had my s...

"Well, that's just a risk I'm willing to take." -Me, every time I break my diet to eat a donut. Happy April! I don't know how ya'll 2019 feels but I, personally would like to start this year over. Like, why is this year trying to fight us? Was it the wine I had on New Year's Eve? Was it the cheese plate? Is it because I didn't make an actual resolution? Whatever it is... I TAKE IT BACK, LORD. Now, if you've been following my journey here on Aintbritfunny, you know that I'm no stranger to taking risks. From moving across the country to follow a dream to quitting jobs I hate not knowing what was next. You know, all that scary stuff. The crazy part is, I sometimes enjoyed the rush that taking risks gave me. You usually go through 3 different steps: 1. Fear - "I should just do it... but hold on.." When you first get the idea of the risk, but you're afraid of the outcome. 2. Thrill - "Imma just do it! Matter of fact, ...

"I'm black every month." Happy Black History Year! Because I am black all 12 of these months. But, I am going to give y'all some dope, black content for the duration of February. Perhaps a little more aggressively black than other months. I don't know. Hang out with me and see. This month I want to explore the many layers of us as a people. Black folks are often stereotyped in the most horrible and degrading ways. Our beautiful stories aren't always being shouted from the mountain tops and we have too much diversity within our culture to ever be put into a box. Which brought me to this month's topic of being " BLACK AND ..." I guarantee that phrase will end differently for each person. This week, mine is " BLACK AND TALENTED ". Ever since I was a little girl, I've always admired people who did it all and weren't afraid to explore the many talents that they have or even want to learn. We've seen Jada Pinkett Smith as a...

"I just don't understand why this is happening to me." -Me, during any minor inconvenience. How many times has unexpected change come knocking and busting down your door before you even had a chance to put on your drawers and get ready for it? For me, more times than I can count. In the past few weeks of January, we've discussed change of habits, unexpected change and changing the way you deal. But, we haven't discussed ALLOWING change to happen. Sometimes, we can see change coming. We don't know when, but sooner or later it's going to happen. And sometimes, we may even try to intercede in order to prevent it. So peep this: I used to struggle with the thought of someone not liking me. I never wanted to be the person to make someone upset, ruffle feathers or cause confrontation. (Now, don't get me wrong; if you come for me, you can have these hands but, I'd rather not, okay?) Ya'll, do you have any idea how hard it is to NOT piss someon...

"Whatever will be, will be." Okay, I'm going to be all the way real with ya'll. Sometimes, it's hard for me to "grin and bare it". When Change happens unexpectedly, I want to cry, cuss, lock myself into a room, turn off my phone, eat a bunch of stuff that's gonna make me fat and feel sorry for myself. The reality is, I can't always do that because I have a job to go to and bills to pay which won't allow me to stay in bed drowning in my disappointment. And that's a good thing because anxiety attacks are no joke. Photo: Me, I took this. Let me be transparent: Something that I always let stress me out is money. Every weekend, I sit and redo my budget to figure a way to pay my bills ahead of time so that I won't get caught up so easily. Sometimes, that works in my favor, most times, it doesn't. When that happens, I get upset and find myself in a stank attitude for a few hours, thinking about how I'm damn near 30 and j...

"I didn't ask for this." Someone once said, " Change happens when you least expect it ". I don't know about you, but when I hear that, I'm always thinking of the good kind of change. Like that one time when I was broke, I found 20 dollars that I hid from myself in the pajama drawer, or when the dude I liked finally hopped in my DMs, or when they sent the new lease and the rent actually went down 50 dollars... Okay, that one never happened but ya'll get the point. You ever been sitting in the break room at work, chilling, scrolling your phone, having a good day, then somebody comes in there talking your ear off, annoying you and now your peace of mind is disturbed. Plus, you now have only 33 seconds left of your break  which you spend hiding from them in the bathroom but it doesn't matter because you see them all day anyway. Photo: Britney Annice That's kind of how UNEXPECTED CHANGE enters your life. It's like "Damn, I w...

"Ugh, I'm bored." Hey ya'll! Welcome to 2019! I'm so glad that you decided to bring me with you instead of leaving me in the old year with all the people you hate. I know it's the top of the year and most of us are already a few days into our new diet plans. We cold. We mean. And we hungry. But, if you want to see change, you have to make a change, right? Photo: My Mama Change is the one thing that is consistent in our lives. Nothing ever stays the same. For the month of January, I'll be talking to you all about CHANGE . Which can mean a lot of different things for a lot of people. For me, this first week of 2019, it meant boredom . Before Christmas, I promised myself that after I finished my last blog post, I was taking some time to myself. Now, if ya'll follow me on social media, you know I go hard with the self promotion. I'm in ya'll face every. damn. day. And it ain't nothing you can do to stop me because I feel like I ha...

"You ain't got it right now, fam." -My bank account Around this time of year, a lot of people tend to stress themselves out. You're sad because you don't have the money to buy gifts for loved ones. You're upset because it's cold outside and it takes 20 minutes for your car to warm up. You're salty because nobody is cuddling you by the Christmas tree. And what's supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, turns out to be you with an attitude, pushing your shopping cart on the back of people heels in Walmart all season. That ain't it, fam. Photo: Yajaira Suriel Look, I'm going to be transparent with ya'll: I am not where I want to be or where I thought I'd be in life. Especially, on the financial tip. In previous years, I'd get really upset when I wasn't able to get the gifts I wanted my friends and family to have. And sometimes, I'd find myself spending more than I needed, with nearly nothing left ov...

"So, what we gone eat when I get there?" Happy November! It's "We got food at the house" season which means we are one step closer to my favorite time of year... Christmas! But, let me not get ahead of myself. For the month of November, I'll be sharing some of the things that I'm thankful for. And what better way to kick off this month than FOOD . I be hungry. Now ya'll know, anytime I go to a new city, I got to eat. That's one of my favorite things about a vacation. You do all of the prepping for it, you shop for new outfits, you try to lose a couple of pounds to get into the new outfits, you pack and travel. But when you finally make it to your destination, you get to just relax and try as many foods as you can. You know you don't be eating like that all the time, so it's all good. I had an absolute blast exploring New York City with my friends Yaya, Greg and baby G! When I touched down at their home in Brooklyn, I was met at t...

"It sounds like you got trust issues." Ya'll remember when we talked about vulnerability a few weeks ago? Well, I feel like that and this week's topic of TRUST go hand in hand. When I put my trust into someone, I expect them to do right by me. And when you don't do right by Britney, you gotta catch these hands. I trusted you, even though you got a booty chin. Just kidding, I've never trusted anyone with a booty chin. Photo: Yajaira Suriel So look, I'm a bit of a loner. Always have been (See "LONELINESS" post). I never felt like I needed a whole lot of people around me because I don't fool with ya'll like that anyway. I can always tell when something is off about a person. I often try to see things through and tell myself "Maybe it's not what you think" but every time I've tried to give someone the benefit of the doubt, they end up showing me why I can't trust people. Let me see if I can give you a short lis...

"You gotta get some 'don't give a damn' in you!" Remember when I told ya'll that I was going to start facing my fears in the month of October? Well, vlogging is one of them. I always thought I needed a professional camera, a makeup artist and maybe a studio audience to laugh on que before I did a vlog. Turns out, I only needed my iPhone and my well lit bathroom. I heard ya'll got a short attention span these days and don't like to read. That's too bad. Because imma still write. But for now, enjoy this very low budget movie about Self Promotion ! See ya'll next week. -BRIT

"I don't want all them people looking at me!" It's October! So I want to get real spooky with ya'll on this here blog. For the rest of this month, I'll be talking about some of the things that scare me. I know what you're thinking right now, "Damn Brit, I thought you was a real gangsta. Gangstas don't get scared." Hold on homie, let me explain... I'm a pretty outgoing person. I always have been...around my family. Most people didn't even know I could talk until I was 15. That's a little bit of an exaggeration but you know what I mean. I had to pick and choose who I showed my personality around. Because if anyone knew how silly I was or that I liked to dress up as different characters and perform for my family, they would make fun of me and I'd be the weird girl with the glasses. Photo: Sierra Campbell I've always felt so awkward being the center of attention. Something about it gave me the creeps. And sometime...

"I love to walk & eat" When people visit me in Chicago, I always like to have at least one fun activity planned out for us to enjoy. Usually, that activity revolves around food or wine. Or both. To me, it ain't nothing like walking, while eating new foods, sipping adult beverages and talking some good trash. A couple of weeks ago, my mom came to visit and I took her the Fulton Market Harvest Fest. The weather was perfect, the people were pleasant and the food was pretty tasty! I purchased our tickets ahead of time so it was smooth sailing when we arrived at the event. We were scanned in, given wristbands, tickets (used like money) for the booths and a couple of cool little tote bags to carry around. I love a useful souvenir! Ya'll know they charging us for bags at the grocery store these days. I'm gone keep that in my car for these Target runs. Now, I'm not going to lie to ya'll. I was so thirsty to try to eat everything at that festiva...

"It will happen, just be patient." So, within the past 4 weeks of September, I've been making a conscious effort to look within myself and try to become a better me. Because sometimes, I'm not living my best life and I am going back and forth with ya'll. *Alexa? Play "Smile (Living My Best Life)" by Lil Duval.* Photo: Sierra Campbell I started off the first week by being DISCIPLINED enough to gain control over my thoughts, emotions and actions. The second week, I made it a point to FOCUS on making conscious efforts to have a positive attitude and remember why I set goals for myself in the first place. Last week, I wanted to make sure that I stayed CONSISTENT in those goals and to hold myself accountable at all times. But, with all of that being said, I have to remember to be PATIENT with myself in the process. I feel like for the past 2 years, I've been spazzing out about turning 30. I can't even begin to tell you all of the...

"What's the point?" After you discipline yourself to get on the path to achieve certain goals, you must remain focused on the prize. Whatever that may be. That's why I chose FOCUS as this week's word. I have always had a problem in this area of my life. I mean, from the time I was a little girl. It would really wear my parents out. Them: "Britney, go downstairs, look on the table, grab the envelope inside of the book that's on the table and bring it to me." Me: *Goes downstairs* "Where ya'll say the book was?" My mind drifted off somewhere between them saying go downstairs and bring it to me . As I've gotten older, I've gotten a little better. But now, my lack of focus shows in different ways. Sometimes, I can't concentrate on my craft because I'm to busy thinking about the negative aspects of it. " I don't know why I'm doing this, it's not getting me anywhere " or " This is pointle...