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BY 30 YOU SHOULD HAVE...


"I'm just not where I thought I would be by now."

 Happy June ya'll! This is the month that I look forward to each year. It's the beginning of summer, there's usually a vacation planned and most importantly, IT'S MY BIRTHDAY MONTH!

I've never been the type to stress about my age or where I was in life according to a specific timeline. I just always thought those things would fall into place and take care of themselves. Early 20's Brit favorite line was "I ain't in no rush". Why would I be? Everything seemed to be going according to plan. I went to college, I graduated, I got a job in my field (ended up hating it), I moved back home, moved to LA (just like I said I would). That plan fell through, I'm like it's cool, I'm only 26. 
Year 26


Bounced back, moved to back to Chicago at 27, got a job, quit that job, got another job. 
Year 27


 By this time I'm 28 and I'm like "Damn, I'm getting close!" It wasn't until this time that the 30 anxiety slowly started to set in. I realized, the things I that I thought were going to fall into place by now, hadn't.
Year 28


I'm supposed to be a working actress, getting ready to purchase my first home, debt free and aw hell, let's throw a husband in there. I mean, I expected to at least know who wanted to marry and start a life with. At least have a crush on somebody, damn.

I started to look at people around me become homeowners, get multiple degrees, get engaged, start families, become financially stable, travel all the time and it made me feel like I had fallen behind somewhere along my journey. But that's the thing, it's MY journey. You can't base your life off of anyone else's timeline but your own.

When you look back at your life and start to compare it to how other people's have panned out. Think about the plan you made for yours. At the beginning of each year, I write out a list of goals. Between planning to buy a car, move to LA, start my own brand, move back to Chicago, and try to be famous... I really don't see how I could have afforded a wedding, to raise a child, another degree and spontaneous trips around the globe.

To all my 30 and up, bout to be 30', 20 somethings stressing about 30, or people that just needed to hear this today, the moral of the story is: You are exactly where you're supposed to be. Who said 30 is too old too old to go back to school? What's wrong with being a stay at home mom with a business? Don't let nobody make you feel bad for stacking money instead of traveling. And don't let nobody make you feel bad for traveling the world while you don't have any responsibilities. The only timeline that matters is your own. Some things will be out of your control and that's okay. Move at your own pace.

Almost 30!

I know I am, hell. Ya'll aint finna rush me.

See ya'll next month! And have a GREAT June 24th! (Yes, that's a holiday.)

-BRIT

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