HAPPINESS: IF YOU'RE HAPPY AND YOU KNOW IT CLICK THIS LINK

"Happiness is an inside job."
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Aight, so let me run it back for ya'll...

*record scratch*

I started off the year 2018 claiming that it would be a "YES" year. For me, this meant taking the time to invest in me and say "yes" to myself even when the world told me "no". Since last January, I have been going hard for my brand and finding new ways to approach my career. I didn't even realize that this was the start of putting myself first and creating my own HAPPINESS.

Photo: Sierra Campbell

For years, I've waited on things or people to come around and do that for me. "Once I get this gig, I'll be happy" or "Maybe if I had someone to hang out with, I'd be happy." Well, what happens when you get those things that you thought would make you happy and they either don't do the trick or they make you worse?

I took the time to intentionally disconnect from things that I knew I was only doing to pass the time and not feel so bored. I stopped going to parties I didn't want to go to and paying for expensive drinks, I stopped hanging out with people that brought negative energy and I stopped re-activating that damn Tinder app just because I thought I had nothing else to do. And do you know what I found out? I'm hella fun to be around! I mean, I always thought so because people told me this. But I actually have been spending great amounts of time with Britney and getting to know her in this new phase of my life. Yep, it turns out, my HAPPINESS was within me this whole time. All I need is some gas money and a trip to Home Goods and I'm all smiles.

Now, don't leave this blog post remixing my words, talking about, "I don't know what Britney smoking. Sometimes other things can make you happy." I did not say that they couldn't. Sometimes, we just be sad, things happen and we need a temporary fix. As long as you can understand that it is in fact a temporary fix. We can't look for our healing in the wrong places.

The moral of the story is, you have got to do the work. Yes, it is work constantly choosing to be happy. Choosing not to let life get you down. And choosing to choose yourself first. It's not that I don't get sad, angry or bored. I just know that I can't afford to let myself go there because, well...anxiety attacks.

I encourage you to do whatever it takes to bring you joy. Especially in this time of year where many experience seasonal depression. For me, that means putting up some Christmas decor in my apartment and baking some recipes I found on Instagram.

Take care of yourselves.

-BRIT

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