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BLACK AND LOVING


"Pull up or leave it on the playground."
-Dr. Britney A. Douglas

 I'm just kidding, I'm not a doctor.

Happy Black Love Day! I know a lot of folks dread spending this day alone, but for the past few years I have been using this day as an excuse to eat something very fat and unhealthy in the middle of week while ya'll are out making children.

With this being the day of love, I chose to make this week's topic BLACK AND LOVING. One thing I have enjoyed seeing on the internet as of late is images of black love and black families. I mean, I clicked on a black love hashtag one day and was just lost in Instagram for a while marveling at these positive, loving images of us. We ARE some loving people, you know.

Photo: Selfie Game Strong

This past year I have really dug into practicing self love. I know, it sounds much easier than it is. And it's so hard appreciating yourself right where you are. But one day, I thought to myself, "God has given me this time alone, am I using it wisely?" I really had to sit back and appreciate having my own space to do whatever I please.

Quick Flashback: A couple of weeks ago, I decided that I'd go to the grocery store. Well, after I left the grocery store I didn't want to go home (my hair was popping that day). So, I drove all the way to the suburbs to do some home shopping and I spent quite a few dollars. After that, I wanted some dessert, so I stopped at the cheesecake factory. 

 Yall... Never once did I have to check in with anyone to tell them where I was or what I was doing next. Never once did I have to worry about not going somewhere because I didn't want to get the kids out of the car. And never once did I have to call and get anyone's approval for the amount of money I was spending. You see what I'm saying?

I remember seeing couples hugged up just wishing I could get a text, a call or even a DM just to get me through the day and not feel so left out. But, when you start getting what you wished for, you realize that ain't what you really want. And I'd rather have something with substance than to have one or five of ya'll sons clouding up my messages with no intentions of taking me on a cute lil rooftop date. I've become perfectly fine with waiting and enjoying my own company with no distractions.

Fam, the moral of the story is, I want to experience love someday just like everyone else. We all do. And hopefully, we all will. But until then, I am choosing to bask in my "me time" instead of shunning it. Also, it beats lowering my standards to what's just available at that time. If you're hugged up with your lover, your kids or your pets today, I hope that you have a wonderful evening. If you're experiencing a break up or loss of a loved one, I hope that this post finds you and brings you joy. If you're alone with takeout and a bottle of wine, I hope you don't get too drunk and send a risky text.

Have a wonderful day filled with love!

-BRIT

  
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