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CONFIDENCE IS KEY


"I'll never be able to do that..."

Happy May ya'll. We are officially 1 month and some change away from my 30th birthday and I still have a back roll to get rid of. But that's not really what we're here to talk about today. Well...it kind of is.

So, for the past few months, I've been talking about things that I'm overcoming or things that I've already overcome. I don't know if it's because I'm hitting a milestone this year or because for the first time in my adult life, I'm finally starting to slow down and reflect.

Photo: My Mama

Like many people, I've dealt with insecurities my whole life. I was chubby kid, who got teased. Then, I grew up, lost a bunch of weight, cut off my hair and went natural and nobody liked that either. Then I gained weight and my hair grew and that wasn't good enough. Then I lost weight again and had long hair and by that time, thickness was back in and I missed the boat again.

Ya'll know where I'm going with this right?

I've always been afraid to be myself out loud because I feared what others would think of me. For a very long time, I carried around that little girl who got teased, believing that I'd never be able to accomplish what I knew in my heart that I was meant to do.

Here's a short list of my childhood doubts:

1. "I'll never be good at school. I'm just not a school person."

2. "I'll never be able to perform in front of people in public."

3. "I'm never going to be that pretty."

Here's a short list of my reality:

1. I graduated from college in 2011.

2. Not only did I graduate, I received a Theater degree and I perform in front of strangers all of the time.

3. I grew up to be hella cute!

The moral of the story is, you can't please nobody until you please you. There is truly power in your words. Watch what you say about yourself! Stand in who you are and wear it proudly.

See ya'll next week!

-BRIT

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